Of course it’s easy for me to just point fingers at the roommate. I myself am someone who’s always struggled with confrontation. I have gotten a lot better at it over the years, which is of course very good. But still i have a long way to go.
I know i need to talk to him, preferably today or at least tomorrow. It’s bothering me too much what’s happening. My explosion sunday didn’t just fall out of the sky of course, it was the result of the repeated non-action from his side.
A lot of words but no action at all.
I recognise it way too well. I tried to make him see better what’s happening. He read my report from when i was with Breek (the foundation i lived with for a year when i left my parents and learned to live on my own.)
I had the same problems than as he seems to be experiencing now.
Only i was 19 and he is 27.
There is nothing wrong with having problems. No one is perfect. But there is a time when you need to get into gear and work on your problems, instead of just telling you have them but not doing anything about it.
It’s better to ask for help, than to not take action at all. But asking for help is scary, coz it’s like admitting you weren’t able to do it by yourself.
I have told him this in our last talk. That living here is also a learning school for him and that he just has to ask if he doesn’t know how some things are done.
When i see him, it’s as if i have to start fighting my own windmills again. Part of me wants to help him with it (but keeps walking up against walls coz he does nothing with my help) and part of me is really getting tired of just that.
I try to keep in mind that it’s not easy when you left your parents for the first time and live on your own. That there is a lot to think about and such. But he is 27 years old. I am not his mother. And just the fact that he makes me feel like that too often is pissing me off so much that i’m just aching for a reason to tell him to leave.
This thing i have also told him.. more than once. But it just doesn’t seem to register.
So what am i supposed to do than? How am i supposed to handle this, without getting more and more pissed because nothing is happening?
Yes.. i need to talk to him. But than?