This has been in the media lately, due to Emma Watson mentioning it. It immediately resonated with me. For me it feels like the perfect term for something i have been trying to explain to people for a while now.
I don’t have a partner and i’m not looking for one either. I feel happy and comfortable by myself. Even with the difficulties I sometimes have I’m my own best friend and I love hanging out by myself. I don’t need “another half” which I actually find a very offensive term. It suggests that you’re half. No one is half, everybody is whole. I Understand that there are lots of people who like having a +1 and there’s nothing wrong with that. We humans crave interaction. Though some do more than others.
If there would be someone who I like, they don’t have to compete with others. I’m their only competition as i love spending time by myself and spending time with them means i have less time spending alone. Deeper down this signifies something very important too. You only want to be in a relationship with someone you love and in this case you have to allow yourself to love…. yourself.
This sounds so simple but from experience i found this one of the hardest things to learn in life. It’s so easy to hate yourself for all the mistakes and wrong things you do and choices you make. It’s so easy to punish yourself for it and make your life miserable and unhappy. Loving yourself and be caring and forgiving towards your own life requires a special kind of being able to let go and say it’s okay to be imperfect.